How We Can Help

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How we can help


We can help you to make better sense of what’s happening in your life – all you need to do is pick up the phone or email.

If you have concerns or worries about a son or daughter or a loved one and are unable  to distinguish the signs and symptoms of possible radicalisation, Families for Life™ is here to help.


We can guide you as a helping hand through what may be one of the most complex and frightening experiences of your life. Being sensitive to your individual and family values and circumstances, we will work with you to build upon your own strengths and existing relationships to meet the challenges being faced by you and your family.

Family counselling support may be considered the most innovative approach that deals with the potential threat posed by extremist groups. Early intervention and support for families is therefore essential and can take place at any part of the radicalisation process. We can assist parents and siblings from the very first signs of growing extremism, all the way through to while an individual is engaged in extremist activities or when the individual is engaging in a rehabilitation or reintegration program. In its earliest stages, family support can be targeted towards parents with individuals at risk, by talking about their anxieties and creating an open atmosphere in which their relative can talk and discuss extremist ideas and in which positive alternatives can be provided

At Families for Life ™ we offer counselling services by fully qualified counsellors, to assist you and  better equip you in understanding  the radicalisation process and what may be happening  to the person you love and how you can help.



We can do this in various ways:

  • Face -to- face  counselling therapy - Sometimes a quiet space  with someone who really understands is just what we need to get us through. With Families for Life™ individuals can receive one-to-one therapy sessions  with an experienced, highly-trained counsellor.
  • Telephone counselling - Counselling by phone is similar to traditional face –to –face counselling. It provides a private window in which you can talk one-to-one with a therapist about issues affecting your life.
  • Skype counselling sessions - If you think you would benefit from seeing a counsellor, but know that you would struggle to fit a series of face-to-face sessions into your busy schedule, online counselling via Skype might be the best choice for you.
  • Home Visit Counselling - Our home visit service is there for the elderly, those who may be unable to attend our office due to physical or medical disability, child care issues, and anyone preferring the comfort of their own home.
  • Outreach work - raising awareness among parents, carers and professionals of the personal impact of radicalisation on a family through tailored-made workshops, training, presentations to schools, colleges, children’s services and community/faith organisations.


In addition we offer specialist support for individuals in need

of support for recovery from mental health  problems such as:


  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement & Loss
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Addictions
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorders (OCD)
  • Domestic Violence
  • Brain Injury

Trauma & PTSD

Trauma

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events.

Someone with PTSD often relives the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt.

They may also have problems sleeping, such as insomnia, and find concentrating difficult.

PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event or it can occur weeks, months or even years later.


Causes of PTSD


The type of events that can cause PTSD include:


  • serious road accidents
  • violent  personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery
  • prolonged sexual abuse, violence or severe neglect
  • witnessing  violent deaths
  • military combat
  • being  held hostage
  • terrorist attacks
  • natural disasters, such as severe floods, earthquakes or tsunamis


If you are involved in or witness a traumatic event, it is common to experience upsetting, distressing or confusing feelings afterwards. The feelings of distress may not emerge straight away – you may just feel emotionally numb at first. After a while you may develop emotional and physical reactions, such as feeling easily upset or not being able to sleep.

This is understandable, and many people find that these symptoms disappear in a relatively short period of time. But if your problems last for longer than a month, or are very extreme, you may be given a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).


There’s no time limit on distress, and some people may not develop post-traumatic symptoms until many years after the event. Additionally, not everyone who has experienced a traumatic event develops PTSD.


Signs and symptoms

Generally, symptoms of PTSD can occur when a person re-experiences  the traumatic event, tries to avoid thinking about the event, or is experiencing high levels of anxiety related to the event. Some of the most common symptoms include:


  • Having recurrent nightmares
  • Acting or feeling as though the traumatic event were happening again, sometimes   called a "flashback"
  • Being physically responsive, such as experiencing a surge in your heart rate or  sweating, to reminders of the traumatic event
  • Having a difficult time falling or staying asleep
  • Feeling more irritable or having outbursts of anger
  • Feeling constantly "on guard" or like danger is lurking around every      corner
  • Making an effort to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversations about the  traumatic event
  • A loss of interest in important, once  positive, activities
  • Experiencing difficulties having positive feelings, such as happiness or love

Its important to note that recovering from a traumatic event takes time, and everyone heals at his or her own pace. But if months have passed and your symptoms aren’t letting up, you may benefit from seeking professional support by way of counselling 

Relationships

Relationship counselling

All relationships have ups and downs, but sometimes they can get a bit stuck and it’s hard to talk things through or get to a positive solution. That’s when help from a skilled couple relationship counsellor can make all the difference. Whether you are feeling things just aren’t quite right or whether you are encountering serious difficulties, we are here to listen and to support you towards a positive outcome 


Couples might seek counselling for many different reasons, not always seeking to save their relationship.

After establishing what each partner's expectations and hopes are, we look at the problem in depth, considering each of your views equally.We work with heterosexual and same-sex couples, couples from different cultural and ethic, as well as religious backgrounds.


Why you might consider couple counselling
There are many reasons why couples seek counselling and often each partner has different expectations. Maye you can identify with some of the points listed below.

  • maybe you live together but feel lonely in your relationship
  • you seem to find it difficult to communicate without arguing
  • you want different things from life or you have changed your expectations and goals and these might not be acceptable to the other partner
  • you have recently become parents and find it difficult to adapt to the changes in your relationship
  • you want to get married but have doubts
  • one of you or both have been unfaithful
  • you might feel that one of you is investing more time and effort in the relationship than the other
  • you have different views on what constitutes commitment, e.g. one of you wants marriage or children or both, the other one does not
  • you have differing views on parenting your children
  • you might be a carer for your partner and struggling
  • your partner might be too dependent on you or you on him/her
  • you might feel that you always give in to what one of you wants or feel controlled
  • maybe you have a different cultural or religious background and find it difficult to find common ground
  • you are not sure if you want to continue your relationship
  • you have decided to break up and want to do this in a respectful and amicable way

As you see, there are many different reasons and the list could go on. What is important however, is that you are considering couple counselling and that shows your commitment to your partner, be it to improve or save the relationship or to find an amicable ending.


What happens in couple counselling?
 When working with couples we do not take sides and strive to give each one of you equal time. Our loyalty is strictly with you as a couple, not to you individually.
.When working together we might consider several aspects of the relationship and you as individuals, such as:

  • your individual hopes and expectations
  • your goal as a couple
  • your background (cultural, religious, etc.)
  • the dynamics of your family of origin or other people you grew up with
  • where you are now in your relationship and the dynamic
  • what has caused the problems you are experiencing
  • where you want to be as an individual